Revisiting are you listening or offering solutions? One of the hills that I will die on!

I have been talking about this topic so much in the last couple of weeks that I decided to revisit it for everyone!

For those of you who know me personally, you know this is a big deal to me. It is one of the main principles I live my life by.

The bottom line is when we are not actively listening (last week's episode-here) we can easily fall into offering solutions when they haven't been asked for. When we offer unrequested feedback, it can feel like criticism, fixing, and straight up not caring. Which is the opposite effect that someone is usually trying to have.

When someone is in their emotions about something they CANNOT hear the solutions, you are trying to offer them. What most people experience in these situations is hearing they are doing it wrong, not feeling cared about, not feeling seen and heard, feeling invalidated, and unworthy of someone's time.

We are taught by society that fixing is caring and it is not. We are taught that doing is caring and in this situation it is not. In this situation BEING is caring. We are taught that we need to EARN our spot in the relationship by doing. This isn't true in this situation.

I invite you start to pay attention to your conversations with people and notice if they shut down when you start offering unrequested solutions. It is place where we can be more self-aware and truly care about someone.

This is a practice and perfection isn't the goal. I still sometimes fall into fixing simply because teaching is what I spend so much of my time doing. And I catch myself and apologize. It is a skill that can be learned and one of the things I help my clients with. It can change all the relationships in your life.

The second part of this is where we get to be responsible for ourselves and tell people up front what we are looking for. It is as simple as saying, "I need to talk about this, and I would like you to just listen, I am not looking for solutions." You have no idea how relieved the other person feels because now they know exactly what is requested of them and they know how to support you in a way that makes a difference.

My invitation to you is to gather this information and see how you can use this skill and please share it with others you think it will help!

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I am Alicia Sweezer owner of Who Knew Healing. For those of you who don’t know me I am an Intuitive Life Coach, Animal Consultant & Animal Communicator, Psychic Medium, Certified Professional Life Coach, Intuitive Mentor, and my passion is providing healing and growth opportunities for people and animals.

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